Thursday, May 26, 2011

Grace on a Thursday: in Aly's words

Happy Thursday, friends! Today, meet my friend Aly. She has a really great blog called The Mommie Diaries where she works out her faith with eloquence. We connected at the very beginning of this year through the blog world, and since then discovered that we live close enough to be face-to-face friends as well. What a blessing Aly is, and what amazing things the Lord has done by weaving our lives together. I know you'll be touched by Aly's sincerity and passion for the Lord. And just look at her baby girl. So precious, and so blessed to have Aly as her mommy. What a legacy Aly is leaving her daughter through her words.

This post, which I read last week, has been coming back to me over and over. May it speak to you today today. Thank you, Aly, for sharing your heart with us.
It was last Thursday and I was downstairs having my morning quiet time. I had been praying for about 30 minutes and God was revealing some pretty earth shattering things to me. There was pride that I hadn't recognized and some impure motives in a few situations I was involved in. God was shining light into so much darkness I hadn't even known was there... Needless to say, I had a really wonderful time of confession and repentance, all before 6:30 AM. I felt completely alive and filled with His goodness and mercy, ready to face whatever the day would bring. I looked up at the clock and realized I needed to iron my husband's pants ;).

So I went upstairs and he was just waking up. I got his pants on the ironing table and noticed a tear in the pocket. Still groggy, he remembered that yes, he'd ripped them the other he couldn't wear them. I immediately huffed and puffed and went into the closet to find something different he could wear. I complained that he still has so many old clothes he needs to get rid of, and why can't he just wear the ripped pants because I specifically made sure they were washed and dried yesterday so they'd be ready for him to wear today, and on and on!
Spirit filled? Not so much. Loving my husband...with a cheerful heart? Not a chance.

I ironed some other pants and walked downstairs on the verge of tears. Not out of frustration with the pants, but because why don't I GET IT? Why can't I love my husband in a way that honors the Lord, and why do I always get frustrated over the tiniest little things? I should know better. I do know better. I know what my husband needs in order to feel loved, and he feels most loved through acts of service (carried out happily and without grumbling). WHY can't I just get a clue? Why can't I put into practice all the things that I know to be true? What is wrong with me and when will I ever be good at this without having to try so hard? When will it ever come naturally to just serve him and not have to constantly battle myself? And right after I'd spent thirty beautiful minutes in prayer?

Then, very gently and with clarity (so I knew it was Him now) God spoke right to my spirit:
What is it that you think you'll be able to perfect? Is there some great need to be able to do life without constant filling and refilling from me? If you reach this point of perfection, wouldn't you then require none of Me? You know, Aly, I quite enjoy our sweet intimate moments in the morning when you pour out to me and then I pour into you. And we both know you enjoy it, too. If you had it all together and did everything right all the time, you'd have no need to come back to Me every single morning (let's be honest: every hour, most days) to be renewed and filled, to confess and repent, to be sanctified, to learn and grow and know me more intimately. Isn't the point of all of this supposed to be more of Me, not less? Just go apologize to your sweet husband (who already knows you can be a little crazy at times), and come drink in the fullness of joy in My presence.

Then I thought about Paul and the "thorn in his flesh" that never went away. I mean, Paul, of all people? He pretty much had it together, you'd think. But even he had areas that needed continual renewing:

To keep me from becoming conceited because of these surpassingly great revelations, there was given me a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. 2 Corinthians 12:7-10

God is all about relationship. There will always be a reason for us to cling more desperately to our Redeemer. So you will never get to a point in your life where you don't need Him anymore. His ultimate goal is not to wean you from Himself, it's not like our human child/parent relationships. The point is not to get to a place where you have it under control all by yourself. We're supposed to need Him every hour. More and more each day. And when we do, that's a good sign.

{ADDED: Leslie here. I don't know what's going on today, but blogger won't let me comment on anyone's blog INCLUDING MY OWN! Am I the only one here?? Well, I guess if I'm not, you won't be able to tell me so. Kind of annoying, so here's my comment: The part that I can't get out of my mind is the phrase about how we live like we are weaning ourselves off of God. and how that's the opposite of the direction we should be going in! I certainly get tempted to feel like the more perfect I get, the less I need that day to day, hour to hour input. And how wrong I am. Thanks for the reminder that my direction should be more and more, not less and less. Ok, just needed to get that off my chest!} 


  1. make me think of the hymn "I need thee every hour" I know I need him so and yet so often he's the last one I go to. this is a such a great reminder to come to him all day long!

  2. Wonderful Aly! I never get enough of reading your words.
    Leslie,the same thing struck me. If I ever had it in me to do on my own I wouldn't need Him, when will I start remembering that?

  3. it was good for me to be reminded of this again today (since it happened last week). it's amazing how quickly we forget the wonderful things He teaches us (especially when it comes to grace). thanks for your sweet comments girls :)

  4. "prone to wonder, Lord i feel it!
    prone to leave the God i love...."

    the habit that should be formed, in me, is that constant looking up into his eyes for a response or His leading...a hourly giving of my heart, to Him, for "re-sealing" for His courts above.
    now THAT would be a good habit....
    but, i gotta say, i don't have that habit.
    i am constantly getting surprised by how far i've strayed in such a short time.

    this was beautifully written.
    thank you ally.

  5. So, so good. And so, so true. Wow. I am continuously working toward this idea of "perfection"...the perfect wife, mom, sister, friend...and there IS no perfect because then we wouldn't need HIM to refill us. Good Stuff. Thanks for introducing us to a great person and blog :)