Most of us know how to respond to the messages our bodies send us. If we get sick, we treat the sickness. If we are in pain, we see a doctor. If something stops working, we ask questions and seek help.
Tonight I reflected on how much less proficient we are at
responding to the messages our souls send us. We do not quickly take our hurts
to the Healer. We manage. And our busy lives leave little room for that soul
care to even be a priority.
That’s the thing about going on a Retreat, like the one I went on this weekend. Every time I go
on one, I am reminded of what is so easy to forget: time and space away make
room for our hearts to be brought out up onto the examination table in a unique
way. It’s not unlike getting an x-ray. You simply get a better picture of
what’s going on in there.
When my son was two years old, he broke his leg. I had no
idea it was broken, just that he was screaming and wouldn’t stand on it. But he
was two, so he screamed regularly. I thought maybe he twisted or sprained his ankle, or even that
he was just mad because he and his sister had been wrestling. There was no
dramatic fall or obvious impact. I soon recognized he needed a medical
assessment and so I took him to the ER.
His cries told me something was wrong, but we didn’t know
exactly what until the x-ray. He had two
spiral fractures on his tibia bone, near the bottom. It was very clear, very specific.
Because of the picture revealing the little fractures in front of our eyes, there was no arguing the problem, so there was no arguing how it was to be
treated.
Now, I think of myself as relatively self-aware. You know I live
there, in the analytical realm regularly making it a practice to sort through
my issues. I don’t feel like I’m often content to “manage” despite my hurts or
my questions. I try to bring it all out before the Lord.
But the magical mixture of time and space away from my
responsibilities provided that x-ray of my heart, and revealed the little
fractures. Hairline heartbreaks, areas of discouragement and weariness, and a
core, desperate longing for my Healer showed up on that film. I suppose I felt
their discomfort all along. But we, especially as women, forge ahead in the
day-to-day, knowing others require our best energies and prayers. We too often
don’t respond to the quiet aches of our souls.
I left out one thing, one very necessary component to being
able to receive this heart x-ray in the first place and that is showing up for
the appointment. I went to that retreat. I paid money, arranged childcare, said
‘no’ to a few things, packed a bunch of stuff, and then got there. And when I
walked in that opening session Friday night temped to feel distracted by thoughts of home, I prayed for God to help me trust
Him with the rest of my family so that I could enjoy the time with
Him. I prayed for Him to help me let go of them and all my concerns so that in
those open hands, I could receive something from Him.
And the first thing He did was hand me that x-ray, showed me
what we have to work with. Because once I saw the problems, there was no
arguing the treatment. My Healer is ready to repair every fracture with his
love.
I know that literally going away for a weekend is not a
possibility for everyone. But if it is, if your church offers this kind of
thing, go. Really. Of course, a retreat is not the only way to give the Lord
time and space in your life. I’m not talking about a thirty minute quiet time,
although that kind of time with Him is so important for our daily soul
vitality. It needs to be a longer chunk of uninterrupted time for Him to assess
the underlying conditions you wouldn’t otherwise see.
You cannot show up as a
spectator in any doctor’s appointment, and it is the same with the Lord. I observed some women who, through their comments, seemed to come to the retreat for entertainment, or social time. I'm not going to say that is the worst thing ever. But for me, I don't need another social time. I need some serious doses of love, peace, and hope. In order to get that assessment from the Lord, we
must be genuinely interested in our soul’s health, and also genuinely trusting
in the ultimate Healer.
Time, space, and open hands that
lay aside all distractions and ask Him for that heart x-ray is a formula for
deep healing to begin. And guess what, I didn’t even know what I truly needed. I had
grown comfortable with my tiny fractures below the surface. But God knew, and
He made a way for me to be there, even when the trip seemed challenging to pull
off.
Isaiah 30:15 is a devastating
message God speaks to his people:
“For thus says the Lord God, the
Holy one of Israel,
In returning and rest you shall be
saved,
in quietness and trust shall be
your strength.
But you were unwilling.”
When we are ill, we do not just
go to a doctor. We return to him or her, the one who has the record of our
health. God is calling us to return to Him, not just once, but regularly, for
these kinds of thorough check-ups. Here is my prayer for us both:
Lord, please uproot any unwillingness in my heart to return to you. Help
me to be willing to allow you, the greatest Healer to deeply examine my heart. Remove
the hindrances, the distractions, and excuses, and make a way for me to find
time and space for you to speak to me. You alone know what I need. You are the
Lover of my soul.
Have a good week, friends.
It's so easy to get caught up in the busy activities that life requires of us, but often we let all of those to-do's cloud over what's going on inside of us. Even if I can't take a chunk of time away, I love to take whatever small moments I can steal to quiet my mind and re-focus my spirit on what's really important; what He wants for me; what He's working in me.
ReplyDeleteI love this post, Leslie, it's such a good reminder to take time for what's really important!
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I'm so thrilled you were able to get away and have that time of reflection. It's so important.
ReplyDeletebeautifully BEAUTIFULLY said Leslie. wow. such amazing reflection and reminder of Truth. I almost hate saying it, but its true....that those times if discomfort are SO needed for Him to come in and bring true healing to places I can't see. love you friend.
ReplyDeleteso glad that you had a good weekend away. I read in a book once about a woman who would regular schedule "God dates," days at home all day, alone purposefully in prayer and study. I've wanted to do that ever since I read that, it is so good for our souls!
ReplyDeleteIn quietness and trust shall be your strength . Confirming words to me because God had given me these same words a few days ago and I "just happened" to read this today. I love when God speaks and I listen.
ReplyDeletebeautiful reminder to make time for quiet prayer and reflection.
ReplyDeletenew follower to your beautiful blog & your words are so inspiring!
God has done great work in my life during retreats. They are never relaxing or fun for me. They are usually a good look in the mirror and God's hand changing my heart. I am grateful for that... and then I have to take some time to recover from all that work! :)
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